Over the years, my friendships have changed significantly. Many of them have sustained school changes and across country moves. During college, friendship become even more complex. Sometimes, the people who you thought were the closest to can end up hurting you the most. Other times, the people that you meet by chance can become your best friends. I am incredibly lucky to have such a wonderful support group. However, friendships take work and here are some lessons that I have learned:
- Treat others the way they treat you
If someone doesn’t treat you the way that you want to be treated, then they are not worth your time or energy. A friend is a two-way street.
2. Communication is key
In order for most friendships to work, you have to communicate with that person efficiently and effectively whether it is through text, phone call or in person. However, you don’t have to talk to someone every day for you to be close to that person. As long as they are there for the most important parts, then that is a true friend.
3. Not all friendships are meant to be
Sometimes friendships just don’t work out. This could be due to personality clashes or no interests in common. Friendships can still work despite this however, it may not succeed all the time.
4. It is important to always make new friends
I have definitely developed close friendships and kept in touch with all of my friends from high school. As we accomplish more in life, you have to learn how to make new friends anywhere.
The definition of friendships evolve as we grow and change. It is important to keep these rules in the back of your mind. Your friends are your second family.