During these past three years of college, the most important lesson I have learned is that in order to achieve your full potential, you have to first learn how to love yourself. I do have to admit this journey has not been easy and it still is a work in progress. However, it is definitely worth it. I lost myself during the summer and second semester of sophomore year. I put someone’s need before my own and at the end, I didn’t even know what I wanted or who I wanted to be anymore. I learned that I will never do that again. I know that people say that you should love yourself all the time but they don’t tell you how challenging it really can be.
To love yourself, you have to accept yourself the way you are and work on improving your weaknesses. You have to first identify how you have changed and know what you want to be.
College has made me much more confident, independent and sociable. I am much more adventurous and take more risks. I love trying new things from Soul Cycle to starting a website to trying new cuisines.
I love meeting new people from all over the world. It is so funny sometimes to discover how many mutual friends you may have with someone. I love going on different adventures such as hiking, kayaking, and road trips with my friends. I barely knew anyone in my quantitative sciences classes at the beginning of the semester. Now, I have at least a few people I can turn for help in each class. I don’t mind being the first one to take initiative in a friendship or introduce myself first. I don’t lose anything from being nice first.
I know what my self worth is and value those who treat me well. I don’t mind cutting people out who will negatively impact me or treat me poorly. It is important to do what is best for yourself and sometimes that means cutting ties with people you care about especially if they don’t care about you.
Some methods I have used include exercise, reading motivational quotes, and hanging time with people who care about me. I would have to say that my friends and family have helped make the process of loving myself so much more easier.
As a result of me focusing on myself for the last few months of junior year, I am doing better mentally, physically, emotionally and socially than I have for a long time. When you put you and yourself goals first, you can really be capable of a lot more than you imagine.